I sometimes wonder whether man/woman needs company in life. And if yes, why do they need one.. the most obvious answer is nature has designed us to procreate as the basic duty/job and that happens when people of the opposite gender come close to each other.
And hence I feel this nature of attraction is innate to all living beings, not just humans. On a social and emotional level, it enhances or reduces some emotions. It is true with birds, animals, amphibians as well as plants; I have noticed that. I think that is why we have been taught in school to stay around a good company, stay away from toxicity so that our ‘correct’ emotions are enhances or suppressed. It also helps mentally in easing oneself.. if one pigeon takes care of the eggs, the other can take care of the nest and food. Company thus helps mentally through division of work thereby creating a support system.
I had been noticing these events around me for some years but have felt it only truly and deeply after having found ‘the one’. My day begins and ends with her. She is indeed my Circle of Life. As a computer engineer, I had developed a certain level of IQ, but a sense of EQ developed after I met my wife Ritika. It is, as I mentioned earlier the law of attraction which created an interest in her- her likes, dislikes, her perceptions and notions.. respecting her choices and being sensitive to her needs. Over time I can anticipate how she may feel about certain things and it automatically creates a red flag with respect to actions.
We find ways to coexist, create our small place in this world and make it a happy place to live in. It gives me a sense of comfort physically, mentally and emotionally to be around her and makes me happy to see her around. We are a part of each other’s big and small decisions. I never knew I had the capability of being this way with someone.. so committed, so involved and so sensitive. The flip side it a sense of loosing it at some point of time in life. No living being can bear the grief of his loved one not being around. As joyful the emotion being around your companion is, equally or even harder is the emotion of being apart.
In spite of these mixed emotions, I would choose the first and prescribe the same to the young ones. There is no greater joy than sharing your life with someone and equally being a part of someone else’s life.
Even though we are still very early in our journey, it pains me to see people drifting apart and choosing to stay away. I try to be sensitive of their situation that maybe they are not the right people for each other, maybe the pieces don’t fit.. but if there is any other emotion of ego, jealously, for granted, insensitivity that is guiding their emotions; they would end up being the same with other person as well. So introspection is important at every stage of life
Times like these make me feel very lucky as it is not too big a task to function when Ritika is around. And I feel this sense of ease is the strength of our relationship. I am reluctant to disturb this sense of calmness and peace and ease that I share with her.
And I am writing this as I feel overwhelmed by the emotion of Valentine’s day, which is also the day we promised to be each other’s life long partners and express my gratitude through this article. I hope every one out there also find who they are looking for and have a better life ahead!